Since we just celebrated Valentine's Day, and my quartet spent a
wonderful Friday delivering Singing Valentines, I've been thinking a lot
about Dating and Love...
The idea for this post arrived via Facebook, when I came across these items:
2A Speed Dating
Reasons to Date a Female Doctor
It
made me think even more about some "social" issues that I have come up
against time and again. Namely, how much information do you share with a
date?
It's not bad enough that I feel I have to hide what I do
for a living (at least initially) for fear of intimidating a potential
date, but I struggle with sharing my firearms hobby as well.
I
mean really -- it's not like the Mid-Life Dating Game is brimming with
men who are looking for an age-appropriate woman anyway (and not
20-something arm-candy). Thus, intimidating a man Financially,
Intellectually, and Arsenally (is that even a word?) is not really going
to help the situation. LOL! I know there are men out there who could
handle it, but I haven't run across too many of them yet.
Thus,
my conundrum. How does one remain "true" to oneself and one's interests
without scaring off any prospects before they have a chance to get to
know you? One of my Facebook friends said that there should be a dating
website for shooters. After all, there are specific dating sites for
various religious groups, and farmers, and I think Alaskans, too, so why
not for firearms enthusiasts? Surely the NRA has big enough server
space to host something like that?? (hint, hint) LOL!
I can't be
the only one who has come up against these issues. Surely other women
shooters have dealt with this as well? After all, Kay found Jerry,
right? And Lena just got hitched, and so did Gabby Franco. But they're
cute young things, not a grumpy old broad like me - LOL.
So anyway, I thought it would be a fun subject to talk about.
What
about you? What do you think? Do you tell a new date about your
shooting habits, or do you bury it until things develop a little more?
How do you broach the subject? Do you wait until they see your massive
gun safe? LOL. I suppose "carrying" on a date is a must - especially for
someone you meet online (besides the usual safety advice about meeting
in a public place, etc.) Have you ever met your significant other at a
shooting match? At a gun club dinner? In a duck blind?
Have you
met anyone at SHOT? ...... LOL there's a fabulous idea!! A Singles Meet
and Greet at SHOT!! (Or even the National NRA Convention) Who wants to
head up that committee and get a sponsor?!!! Anyone? Bueller?
I'd love to hear people's experiences and thoughts! Feel free to share either here on on the Facebook page.
I met my husband via Cupid.com. On my profile, I clearly stated that I was a shooter and that "tree-hugging, bunny-loving anti-gunners need not apply". I'd like to say it thinned the herd, but I think MORE men came out of the woodwork when I said I was a shooter. And not quality men, either. More the type who thought a little lady with a gun was hot, as long as the little lady didn't *really* know what she was doing and couldn't out-shoot their men.
ReplyDeleteIn the end it worked out. My husband can shoot (he's a hell of a shooter), but it's not his passion, so shooting is kind of my thing, but he supports it. It works.
I'm glad to hear a success story! Thanks for sharing. I've started joking that from now on I'll only date CCW permit holders --- because at least you know they can pass a background check!! :-D
DeleteMy hubby worked for an armored car company at the time. Not only did I know he could handle a gun, but he also had to have decent credit :)
DeleteKathy, I can relate to this big time. Once things healed after loosing Irene to stage 4 metastatic lung cancer & I was dating the issue was concealed carry. Do you/don't you? Where do you draw the line? Bottom line was I was lucky enough to find Barbara & she understands. & we need to have coffee next year at SHOT. Meeting you was an unexpected pleasant surprise! Steve
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